One high school boy explained why someone might not want to post any details about their relationship on social media: “I don’t know. Then, you know, if you were to post it online and then you break up, you probably wouldn’t want to change it and then everyone asks you what happened, so you might not put it there in the first place. It’s like a permanent tattoo.” “A lot of people kind of don’t like it on social media because it doesn’t need to be on there.
Just let it be the people you actually know who knows. ‘Cause as long as the two know how they feel about each other, I feel like if you have it on social media, it’s like more drama.
At the same time, this self-presentation can sometimes appear inauthentic or phony to others.
Teens are especially attuned to this type of social curation: When it comes to teen friendships, fully 85% of teen social media users agree that social media allows people to show a side of themselves that they can’t show online.
Similarly 50% of boys say social media makes them feel more emotionally connected with their significant other, compared with 37% of girls.
Among the 31% of teens who are “teen daters” who use social media: Girls are more likely to “strongly disagree” with the notion that their partner shows a different side of themselves on social media than they do offline: 13% of girls strongly disagree with this statement, compared with just 4% of boys.
when I’m in person with him, like, it’s harder for me to tell him what I’m feeling.
So like I’ll think about it when we’re together, and then like afterwards I’ll probably text him like what I was feeling and tell him my problems.”“I think texting kind of makes you feel closer because – boys are more shy. my boyfriend, he doesn’t like to express himself like that.
Some 37% of teens with dating experience have used social media to tell their significant other how much they like them in a way that is visible to other people.
Teens from less well-off households, as well as those who have met a partner online, are especially likely to have done this.
But when we text, it seems like it’s so much easier for him to talk to me.