As long as I can remember my parents have been feeding, bathing, brushing teeth, dressing, and moving my grandfather from place to place. He does not recognize any of us and is only responsive to music.
Long story short, he has been on the decline for a very long time.
If anyone knows how tragic Alzheimer’s can be, it is my mother.
She lovingly cared for my dad — who also had the disease — at home for many years.
Every day she seems to withdraw a little more, and I’m no longer sure she even knows I am her daughter. She now needs help with everything — even the most basic human functions.
At this point, I believe she is simply existing in her body.
Time and again she told my sisters and me that she did not want to continue living if she had advanced memory loss. Although I’ve seriously pondered it, there is no legal way for me to help my mother die.Simon Hi Simon, Thank you so much for reading my blog and for your comment.I know so many of us can relate to your feelings…I hope you can forgive yourself at some point.She is entering the latter stages of dementia and has already lost so much cognitive ability.Even with all the research and focus on Alzheimer’s, there is no cure and not even effective treatment or drugs that will slow the progression of this elusive disease.However, I believe individuals will eventually have more control over how and when they die, including decisions of how long to be kept alive with severe dementia. Until then, I keep praying — just in case there is a higher power. I pray every single day and some days I get so angry and resentful that she is still alive, she did not make our lives happy when she was all there so to have to quit 2 jobs to take care of her and her affairs has put a bad taste in my mouth and I just want to bury her and be done with it all.