It’s easier to keep a certain amount of distance when you’re keeping the conversational topics to surface level engagement, talking about TV, books, movies, travel and the like.
Think of it as though you were having a conversation during a night out with friends – you generally don’t get deeply personal when you’re out on the town with your buddies.
The clearer everybody is on where they stand, the less chance there is for confusion, hurt and resentment.
When you’re still establishing the rules for your casual relationship, it is dick move that I’ve seen far too many people pull and a violation of the other person’s trust.
” or a carefully negotiated contract stipulating what is and isn’t permissible.
“So you see, as stipulated in section 4, sub-section C, paragraph 2, any orgasm experienced by the party in the first part is to be reciprocated within the same encounter, or the party in violation will be labeled ‘an inconsiderate pork-face’ to their friends and owe at least two oral sex sessions lasting no less than 30 minutes.”establish some ground rules and expectations.
As a general rule of thumb, casual relationships are more relaxed; there’s usually less emotional investment and less involvement.
Some relationships are strictly sexual while others are more companionable, but still without the expectation that they’re leading somewhere.
If you’re in a casual relationship, you should consider keeping more towards activity dates, especially ones that get you charged up – going dancing, for example, or playing pool.
This doesn’t mean that panty-ripping, throw-each-other-against-the-wall sex isn’t going to follow (or is incompatible with romance, for that matter)… Not because there’s something wrong with it, but because being romantic or going on romantic, candle-lit dates implies commitment…
which is something you’re presumably not looking for.
Not having any strings isn’t a license to be an asshole or a player or to coast along past any misunderstandings or miscommunications. It’s important to establish from the outset that this is a casual arrangement and that of you are expecting more out of it.
Depending on the personalities involved, this may be something as simple as saying “you know this isn’t serious, right?
Or maybe you’ve decided that you’d rather have a few people you see on a semi-regular basis instead of just one monogamous partner.