No matter how much you want to be there next to him, no matter how noble your intentions, sometimes you’ve just gotta step back, and let him be.Come up with a word, phrase or other signal that he can give when he’s feeling overwhelmed, and needs to withdraw for awhile.While clearly not a majority, that’s about the same percentage of guys that are left-handed. As result of this kind treatment, many of us learn to suppress our sensitivity, to try and act the part of the silent, stoic, macho man the world pressures us to be. But this article is for the ladies who have found themselves a sensitive guy, and fallen hard for him. Maybe the most important thing to remember is that sensitive guys tend to over-think things.Now imagine if you will, that every time a left-handed guy did something left-handed, they were teased and put down, made to feel different and ashamed. We figure out quickly that opening up to their co-workers or guy friends isn’t always safe – so we keep it to ourselves. Within the confines of a romantic relationship, a man can finally let his guard down and express his thoughts and feelings. I know that there are women out there who simply will not date a sensitive man. For the women committed to a sensitive man, who genuinely want to know, “How can I keep this relationship strong? Our minds are always pouring over little details that most people miss – like subtle changes in body language or tone of voice – and wondering, “What does it mean? Researchers believe that high sensitivity is an innate, biological trait.Being able to sense and feel where your partner is at on that spectrum is one of the most valuable relationship skills there is.
According to research, as many as 1 in 5 people can be qualified as highly sensitive.
I think that deserves a little time and attention, don’t you? Being so in touch with our raw emotions, bombarded with sensory stimulation from all directions, and helpless to stop the machinery of our minds from constantly thinking and over-analyzing every detail…
Of course the other half of communication involves telling him how you feel and what you want – and telling him clearly and directly. we need something to help us cope, to help us find peace and balance.
It could be as simple as him saying “time out,” or putting his hands over his eyes or his ears. This one “relationship hack” that can make all the difference.
Just agree on something ahead of time, something that makes sense to both of you, something neutral. It enables him to tell you how he feels, at the moment when it is most difficult for him to do so.
I like to write poetry, and meditate, and take long walks alone in the woods.