My sweet, thoughtful, generous husband is so good at spoiling me but there was a time that we laugh about now because everything he did was such a sweet thought but just slightly off from what I liked. Not going to lie, for us, although happy and full of joy, it was also stressful and easy to snap at each other. In the past, I’ve been guilty of paying attention to my phone and social media more than my husband when we drove (don’t worry– he’s the driver) but when we switched to playing 20 Questions, our communication and marital satisfaction began to sky-rocket!I love the Werther’s Creamy Filling candies and he remembered that I liked Werther’s but bought me the originals instead of the kind I loved. Another time, after a long hard day he went to pick up a pizza so I wouldn’t have to cook and I asked if that restaurant had the bread-stick crust. Gottman did a study on how marriages were affected at the time of the couples’ first child and concluded that, “The couples whose marriages thrived after the birth had detailed love maps from the get-go…These love maps protected their marriages in the wake of this dramatic upheaval.”It is so important to be refreshing your “love map” throughout life– continually learning each other’s thoughts and feelings so that when stress comes, you are in the habit of it and you have more to love because you know more about each other. It was a fun way to learn more about each other and we’ve been married four and a half years! Write down or spontaneously create a list of at least 20 detailed personal questions.And because you love them, none of it matters—because you only see the person you’ve come to know and love. It’s easier to ask these questions, so your partner will know how much you want to be involved in their life. As time continues, however, you either part ways or grow old together, all while still learning new things every day. When you start to put all these together, you realize that the person you love is just human—but that’s what makes them so special. #20 When do you think I first fell in love with you? [Read: 60 get-to-know-you questions for a new romance] #4 How’s my relationship with your family? They may have their flaws, but they also have their stellar points. [Read: 50 revealing questions to know if someone’s right for you] Questions about your partner These questions, on the other hand, are designed to give your partner insight into your way of thinking. Be creative and cover lots of different subjects ranging from silly to serious. Once you’ve gone through all of them, turn it around and have your spouse answer for you.
[Read: 36 random funny questions for flirty guys and girls] How and when can you ask these things?
It gives me something to focus on, and some creative ways to do so.
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Similar to the popular game show on Television, you can play the Newlywed game right at home.
To score the most items by related answers to see how well married couples know each other.
The aim is to find out how compatible the pair is as well as the areas where they discuss a standard interest, although the concerns may appear so funny, it says more about the couple interests. The Newlywed Game is a game that most are familiar with from observing the sport reveal!