Should I let my date know that I have priorities when it comes to scheduling?
I'm ready to meet some women, but should I even bother?
Spencer says, "If your carriage is turning into a pumpkin just when your night is getting more interesting with someone you've been on a few dates with, consider starting your next date at his place, rather than ending it there.
Cook dinner and then watch a movie so you feel like you're getting more out of your night." You could also schedule a mid-day romp on your lunch break or when your child is at after-school activities. Parenting.com: The 5 rules for a satisfying sex life How Do I Get Back Into the Game? My son is now four and I am really nervous to go on a date and almost feel like I've never even been kissed.
Still, less is more, says Deborah Roth Ledley, Ph D, licensed psychologist, founder of the website The Calm and author of "Becoming a Calm Mom: How to Manage Stress and Enjoy the First Year of Motherhood." "Keep it simple and say something like, 'I've been feeling so lonely and it is time for me to start meeting some new people.' If your child asks a question about your date, respond with a short and simple answer, but if they are satisfied with the initial statement, change the subject to homework or something important to them." Parenting.com: The easy way to answer kids' toughest questions When Do I Introduce the Kids?
Problem: I've been dating a nice man consistently for seven weeks and I'm wondering if it's time to introduce my 10-year-old son to him. --Diane, 40, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania Solution: Just like you don't tell your kid everything, you don't have to introduce them to everyone.
--Carol, 34, New Haven, Connecticut Solution: Just like you're not lying about having a kid to your date -- don't lie about having a date to your kid.
"It's hard to meet your match when everyone you're hanging out with is under three feet tall." She recommends, instead of heading to kid-centered places, to try some kid-friendly ones, where you might be able to scope out a cutie.
"A museum, bookstore, sidewalk fair, farmer's market, or a park without swings where your kid can run on the grass and play catch are all places where adults hang out too," advises Spencer.
But then, use the rest of the space to talk about nothing but you.
This is the one area of your life that isn't about what your child wants, but about what you want." For example, tell potential suitors what books you like to read (this is an Elmo-free zone), latest movie you saw (Don't you dare say Toy Story), what food you like to cook (chicken nuggets don't count even if you prepare them every, single day!
"It is important to not introduce your kids to every person you go on two or three dates with. When kids are introduced to someone 'special,' they assume it actually means something and then if the person disappears, this shifts their whole belief system," says Ledley.