But according to type theory, we would expect INFJs perfectionistic hang-ups to relate more to Se matters (i.e., issues related to the inferior function, such as perfecting an artpiece) than those pertaining to relationships (Fe).
How then, might we account for INFJ relationship dissatisfaction?
They are typically better received in situations where people have voluntarily sought the NFJ’s advice (e.g., a counseling session) or when directed toward a broader audience (e.g., an NFJ pastor or speaker).
When NFJs analyze other people’s relationships, especially in approved contexts like professional counseling, there is a greater likelihood of objectivity.
In their own relationships, however, it seems more likely that their personal needs and fears, particularly those associated with the inferior function, could unwittingly diminish their objectivity.
Specifically, I am referring to NFJs’ tendency to believe they know other people’s minds better than people know themselves.
NFJs feel they have been endowed with unique powers to see through superficialities and apprehend others’ deeper motivations (and dysfunctions).
They focus on things that interest them most putting off completing tasks until the last minute as the routine bores them.