What it taught me was that if a guy could go for several days without checking in or asking me to hang out, it means he’s probably got cool stuff going on in his life and maybe I should ensure that I have the same. And it’s usually on those quiet nights when I realize that if I was meant to spend any significant amount of time with that person, he would make sure to be a part of my plans instead of ignoring me. It’s a huge mistake to think that you’re not good enough or that you’re not interesting enough just because someone you went out with isn’t DYING to hang out with you again.It’s such a huge waste of time to wonder, “What’s he doing tonight? There are times when it’s okay to just forget that person and reconcile with feeling a little hurt and having an awareness of when it’s just a quick little bruise to the ego, but nothing that causes long-term damage to the spirit.Break It Off Whatever Way Is Most Practical With some men I’ve had to make it super clear and vocalize that we are no longer seeing each other.It mainly helps ME to hear it and then I’m obligated to stand by my word.Sometimes I’ve spiritually punished myself for things not working out with someone I liked.What I learned, eventually, was that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with things not working out someone I date.That initial bracket of time when you start dating someone can determine pretty quickly whether you should continue seeing that person.
If you know that you’d like to see that person exclusively, don’t lie and say, “No, I’m not looking for a relationship” when clearly you are.
Just imagine that for every second you spend dwelling on that negative thought, a penny is being taken out of your checking account and being thrown into the ocean.
You’ll never get back any time wasted dwelling on someone who doesn’t care.
Playing It Cool Over time I’ve learned that it’s important to subdue my dramatic nature, especially after dating guys who really weren’t all that fascinating.
Instead of calling/texting a bunch of drama, I play it cool and just forget (on purpose) to contact that person.
I’m grateful to live in a time and place that allows me, as a young woman, to explore my options and determine whether I’m looking for someone’s occasional company or if I might want something serious. It has helped me a lot to have a flexible mind when it comes to realizing that I just won’t be seeing someone beyond a first or second date.