We are positioning ourselves for loss of human connection and social skill adequacy by relying on technology for our socialization if we’re not careful.However, by exercising boundaries and good judgment, social media could actually enhance our lives and dating opportunities if used in the right way.In a matter of seconds, you can pull up a slew of pornographic images to whet your sexual appetite or peruse a dating site to scan for potential matches with your cell phone or laptop when you’re on a break from work or traveling home on a subway. But with this quick accessibility and push-button mentality, does it really serve the needs and ultimate prognosis for those single gay men who are seeking a soul mate for a long-term partnership? In a busy, hectic society when we have little time available to go out socially, if we live in a rural area with lack of access to a visible gay community and find it difficult to decipher who’s gay versus straight when out on the town, social media makes for a great leveraging tool to meet other single gay men. Let’s do an examination of the pros and cons of using social media in your dating efforts to see how it shapes up.What could’ve had a promising future results in a mere hookup situation because a foundation for a relationship didn’t have the chance to properly be established before introducing sex into the equation.
Is meeting that special someone proving more difficult than you ever thought it could be? Dating websites have come a long way since launched in the mid-1990s.
While we are a lot more “out” and visible than ever before, social media has expanded opportunities for us to meet other men in a way we have never been able to before and has increased the odds of connecting with our single gay cohorts.
Social media has made it possible to get to know someone before actually meeting in person, allowing us to screen for compatibility and saving us time and energy in the process.
But there’s also an inherent risk to this if you’re not careful, as you’ll soon see below.
Social media is more impersonal and less threatening than face-to-face interactions, therefore it makes one more susceptible to saying or doing things he might not in person and could sabotage a potentially good thing.
Spread yourself around to a variety of different venues so you have more reach, visibility and opportunities.