Your goal should not be to “get over this.” Your goal should be to talk to your boyfriend about his past and to share your feelings, anxieties, and questions with him openly.You’re not talking about an age gap between two adults in similar life situations, or the occasional exception—for most of his life and well into his late 30s, your boyfriend has dated college-aged women.
Not because he “might want to go back” to dating extremely young women, but because it’s an indicator of how he Q. As much as it’s certainly a possible red flag, I remember having a truly horrible argument with my now-husband, when we were first dating, in which he argued that rape culture wasn’t a real thing—after all, he’d never heard of it!
Mallory Ortberg, aka Dear Prudence, is online weekly to chat live with readers. (Sign up below to get Dear Prudence delivered to your inbox each week. Most of the time, I can see myself marrying him and being happy, but some things he says politically make me nervous, and I’m worried that he’s too uncaring about other people’s situations.
He’s in the medical field and enjoys helping his patients.
Your feelings do not need to be justified by the experience of others!
You can say to your relative, “Hey, I’m glad you’re enjoying these old videos. I’d prefer not to have any videos of me as a child made public.
On one hand, I think that I should try to just laugh it off and let it go, and that making a big deal of it would just draw attention to it.