He had come to adore this young man and saw that we were happy together.In the months that followed, friends and family were surprised at how well my father was "handling" our engagement.When my boyfriend asked my parents for my hand in marriage, he reassured my father that he understood the importance of Judaism in our lives and would honor and uphold Jewish traditions and values.Though probably still reluctant, my father lovingly said yes.About a year after our beautiful Jewish wedding, we found out we were having a baby boy.
And even if I could accept intermarriage, my father never would. He had repeatedly told me how important it was to marry "inside." He worried about the ultimate demise of the Jewish people through assimilation.Recently I asked my dad if he still thought intermarriage was a .Without hesitation he answered, "No." Yet I feel otherwise. I worry that I failed at the most important relationship in my life and will be judged by the Jewish community.One of the first things I said to him was, "How will I tell my dad?! " He believed that Jews were less likely to keep such secrets and commit such despicable acts." I had worked so hard to convince my father that this marriage would not bring disgrace upon myself, my family, or my people. Of course, plenty of Jews also withhold their feelings and cheat on their spouses.I was a "nice Jewish girl" looking to date a "nice Jewish boy" when I met him.