You might think that words like are nice things to say to someone, but no one wants to hear them.As we all know, people normally like compliments, but when they’re used as pick-up lines, before you’ve even met in person, they inevitably feel…ew.So, “You looked like you were having a blast on your skiing holiday! Where would you most like to go skiing that you haven’t been yet? One hundred words is about right: long enough to include a compliment, to say what caught your eye about their advert, mention something you have in common, and to ask a leading question.Don’t feel you have to sell yourself or introduce yourself too much – as we’ve said, they’ll definitely visit your profile and read about you there. Plus, the shorter your first email, the more intriguing you’ll be. You might say you’re busy and leading a fun, full life, but if you’re sending emails at 9.00 on a Saturday night, how busy can you be..? Struggling to think of the right thing to say to an attractive match?
The easiest way to start a conversation with anyone new is to ask a question, so include one.
Use that scientific discovery to your own advantage, by starting your email with a “Hello [Username]” and not a non-specific “Hi.” If you want to create a feeling of warmth, shorten their name, use its initials, or create a nickname based on one of their interests. Everyone loves to read about themselves, so don’t begin your message by launching straight in about you.
Instead, start by saying what caught your eye about their profile.
Our negative correlation list is a fool’s lexicon: was also a successful word, but much less so (33%).
Scientifically, this is because it’s a little evil sounding.
In fact, it’s smarter to use no traditional salutation at all (which earns you the reply rate of 27%) and just dive into whatever you have to say than to start with all did very well.